For anyone who’s taken the “Prevent It: Taking Action to S.T.O.P. Sexual Child Abuse / Action Ondernemen om Seksueel Kindermisbruik te Voorkomen” workshop, the myth busting section is always an eye opener. When it comes to the long held belief that kids lie about abuse, it is well researched that in over 95% of cases where the children or youth have disclosed, it is ultimately proven to be true. But not everyone has taken the workshop or seen the stats.
Save The Date: “Prevent It” Workshop 13 March! (Nederlandstalig)
It’s a new year and we’re kicking it off right with a “Prevent It” Workshop! Hosted by the generous and fabulous, St. Ik Wil. 🙂Come learn tips, signals, stats and other useful info to help better protect children or youth in your life, work, neighborhood.. When: Wednesday 13 March 2024 …
It’s a Wrap! Taboo Talk at Elementary School & The Video That Blew Us All Away
The Christmas season is upon us, and one of the year’s highlights for me was the Taboo Coffee Talk at Elementary School De Schelp. Wowza! Arranged as part of their “Ouderkamer” Series (where an elementary school opens their teacher’s lounge for parent’s once a week for parent connecting, themes, creative …
“IDK What to Do” – Teen Boys Incresingly Victims of Sextortion
Whether it’s sexual abuse, sexual exploitation, or blackmail with nude images. It’s not just girls. Boys are also affected, devastated. And it’s happening more often than you think. The whole boystoo is a social/cultural concept I myth bust in every “Prevent It!” workshop.
24yr accused of blackmailing 100+ minors with nude images
Nude Images & Blackmail.
It’s a real dangerm, especially for youth, in the age of digital sharing of everything from personal data to private messages and images. A landmark announcement from Dutch Public Prosecutor’s Office (Openbare Ministerie) re. a 24jr old young man who seduced young girls into sending him naked pictures of themselves, and then threatened to go public with these images if they didn’t pay him.
Mental and social fall-out for the victims is horrendous.
I recall the young boy who killed himself after a naked picture of his was posted online. While looking up the case, I found more similar stories. #heartbreaking
Tip: Teach kids, from an earlier-than-you-think age, to be mindful of images they send or post on the internet or social media. And that posting nude images is a REAL red flag danger and action.
Tip: I use a phone cam mini cover (a glitter plush sticker, but there are more official items with actual sliders). These are good teaching tools to discuss and help remind about boundaries–physical AND digital. <3
Article from Nu.nl here: https://www.nu.nl/binnenland/6247670/man-24-verdacht-van-afpersen-ruim-honderd-meisjes-met-naaktbeelden.html
PS: Check the reactions in the Comments of the nu.nl article—
Scouts Abuse Bankruptcy Deal to Cover Sexual Abuse Claims
Major legal news on the US Scouts sexual abuse case. 84,000 claimants and a deal that involved bankruptcy of the Scouts. Note, the focus in the case is on past abuse–referred to as “historic cases” but the key is to not lose sight of kids today who often have No …
4 CSA Myths You Need to Bust Today.
We occasionally hear a story in the news, or maybe in a friend group. CSA (child sexual abuse) happens way more than we think–and pornography exposure is in the mix too. You heard of any cases downplayed, or that didn’t make it to Court? Did someone suggest the kid was …
What is Grooming & Quick Signals
Proteges, shoe-in’s, there’s an age-old practice of preparing someone for a position. The same is true in the CSA world, that is, grooming a child for abuse. This makes them more open to it, or that they may not even see it as abuse (e.g the story pop singer Rita …
Headlines & Gender Disparity: “Female teacher has ‘tryst’ with 13y/o boy” vs “Male teacher ‘rapes’ 13y/o girl”
I was looking for the newspaper headline and photo that made me want to write this post. I couldn’t find it in my twitter feed or mailbox, but in the process, saw multiple cases like this. It wasn’t just actual language describing a crime was skewed, it was the whole …
What’s the deal with Pics & Permissions? 3 Quick Tips for Parents & Youth Workers
Did you see that guy standing in the back by the pillar? He’s got a big bag and it looks like a super wide lens is coming out. What’s up? With many extracurricular and meet-ups moving outside under Covid & government regulations, we’re encountering new dimensions to privacy. Many people …